Surviving Family, Friends and the Funeral
This subject terrifies people, and whether you have experienced it or not, it's something everybody goes through. Whether it's family or a friend that passes away, whether it was expected, or a sudden death, you will suddenly have to deal with a number of people when you least want it. People you haven't spoken to in years and people you speak to everyday giving their deepest sympathy.

The most common feelings at this time are to just lock yourself in a cupboard, not talk to anyone or anything. However, this isn't possible, so this article is written to try and ease the next few weeks of dealing with people, organising things, and most importantly, holding everything together.

Family and Friends
Before the funeral it is important that everybody who was close to the person who passed away are told about the funeral arrangements, and are made aware of what is happening. Be prepared, when you explain what has happened, be sympathetic to how they are feeling no matter how distraught you are feeling yourself. Some family members and friends maybe a struggle to contact, but do not feel guilty.

Although at the funeral it may not be possible to talk to all the distant family members, perhaps it would be nice if you could phone, or write a letter saying Thank You for their attendance to the funeral, and that you appreciate all that they have done.

Funeral
Whether the funeral is large or small, whether the family has decided the decisions, or the deceased has left wishes that should be followed, make sure you choose what is happening and stick to the decision. If you choose to have a little family funeral, explain this to friends.

You might find friends do not agree to this, make it extremely clear it is the deceased wishes or the family's decision. If they still do not agree, they are being insensitive. A way of getting round this is to tell them the funeral date is yet to be decided, but don't feel guilty, they were being insensitive when all you are trying to do is the best you can.

Socialising
On this occasion, people understand you are not able to make civil conversation when you are so distraught. Don't try to talk to everyone at the funeral, people may offer simple condolences, but do not expect a long conversation.

The Wake
Food and drink after the funeral isn't necessary, however, the majority of people choose to do so as it is a fine time to give and accept condolences that you were unable to talk to at the funeral itself.

At this time you will find friends are more than happy to help, they are a great shoulder to cry on, and can help set up the food and drink whilst you are at the service.

The Will
Regrettably, not all family members act with respect and dignity at the funeral. You by find family members quarrelling over the car, processions and even the dining room chairs of the person who has passed away. Although the family are grieving, some are still thinking about their changed finances.

Do not tolerate theses arguments at such a sensitive time. Try not to acknowledge theses comments and phrases. If people start asking questions concerning the will, simply explain that you are far to upset to discuss it, and they will be contacted if they are mentioned in the will.

It's a harsh reality to face, but you could find your self the centre of very hurtful statements about your new possessions and your enhanced economic position.

At any point if there is a difference in opinion regarding the assets, simply explain that you will hire a solicitor to deal with the will.

The Days that Follow
Loneliness is the most common feeling after the funeral, emptiness and grief. Remember other people are going through what you are going through; respect how each other are feeling, and how they personally choose to deal with it.

The memories you have of the person is so important, not the funeral, but of the time you spent together when they were alive. Many people can't remember their close ones funeral, it can go by with such haze, remember this is only because you are grieving. This doesn't mean you don't care, it means you care too much.