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Contributed by Livgivare Sweden

When I went to school I was not like the others. I had a deaf dad and a mother that walked around in strange clothes. I was a very lively kid who also was a bit naive. If someone asked me to undress and bath in the muddy puddle I wouldn't do otherwise. The fact that I became friends with the adults was no strange thing. I was a good friend with the teachers and not with the friends of my age, that was not that easy for a very young girl.

Then I switched school because I became older. I dangerously fell in love with an artist that was not that fashionable to love at that time. Most people had to whisper behind my back and I who was an outgoing girl and knew how to talk had very few real friends. The ones who were my friends didn't have many friends either. So I was nothing like the popular girl. Then I switched school again up to the High school. It turned to the better thank goodness. Unfortunately the things I had to go through as a kid are still with me. Today I am a bit afraid of being outgoing. I am often indoors not in contact with people, just because I have a trouble to put the trust in people. Don't like to feel different anymore.

But as I have been told you shall stay yourself all the time. The ones of you out there who could not call my childhood a girl who have been mobbed, you are wrong. Because when you get to be an adult you tend to reflect on things and you discover, like I did, that I was all alone. The loneliness came probably because of people talking bad behind my back. And the fact that many didn't dare to become friend with the girl with different interests and a strange family.

Later on I have got the impression that the school and world around me didn't get the truth about my story. That I was alone. Nobody understood that the girl without siblings and best friend did need help. So no-one can know what being mobbed is all about unless you have been through it yourself, to put words on it. Search for help, it doesnt come to you.

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Written by kibble on 2006-05-16 22:36:58

Apart from a few rare one's people tend to do what is easier. It's easier to know and live with the norm, as they can guess what they are thinking, or what they are up to, and even how they will behave. For the sounds of things, someone like you will need to know how their real friends are, and not just guess.

In some ways I understand where you are coming from as I've been there too, but an over all picture is something I can not dictate as I do not know you as a person. I quote: “I have often commented on how trying to be different is redundant at best since by nature we are all unique individuals. However, those ‘big picture’ views notwithstanding there are many instances in which separating one’s self out can be beneficial if not essential. This is only exacerbated by the fact that not everyone recognizes or operates in light of this fact. An environment where there is a large degree of commonality of characteristics only makes it that much easier for a person within it to lose track of their inherent uniqueness.”

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