Almost the same...
Written by Guest on 2006-02-14 12:33:46
My father gambled, a lot. In one weekend is lost £18000, and then 3 days later another £2500. I mean that was at a worse point, but it was continuous. He was in a very well paid job, yet we lived scraping the bottom of society’s barrel, and in a pokey house which always had DIY jobs half finished or in a mess because of unpaid bills. The house was re-mortgaged over and over again to pay for bill and of course to feed my father’s habit. This in turn, led to a series of arguments between my father and mother. Just like you, they tried to keep it from me, and with the house in a worse state, it added to the stress levels in the house. I’m the oldest of four, and in-fact the oldest in my family’s younger generation [out of cousins, brothers & sisters]
I’ve grown to be strong minded, yet subtle in passing my opinions to others. To answer your question, I think you should take a lot of time to experience and experiment with different methods. I mean it does take a while to do it all. Ideally, try been softer but without letting people walk all over you, present your idea to the table, make it heard and acknowledged in the nicest way possible, but not to be frustrated when people dismiss it. From my experience, some people get an idea in their head, and they are not willing to listen to others, don’t worry about a thing, let them do what they want to do. But if it is something that will directly affect you, then you will need to seek higher power for help. Don’t attack it head on, as it is often matched with the same vigour and passion… When all is done, you'll find yourself a lot happier knowing that you've given everyone a say and you've made yourself heard [and more importantly acknowledged]. Often it doesn’t matter if you were right or wrong, as sometimes, it’s just a matter of opinion. As the saying goes, this is just my two cents.
Regards, kibble
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